Look, loving long distance teaches you so many lessons about yourself, your significant other, and your relationship. For example, as easy as technology makes your time apart, I don’t like texting. So much gets lost and so many questions go unanswered. Skype and voice notes have become our best friends.
But, this valid lesson I speak of, it was quite unexpected. While he’s been away (a whole three weeks so far), I’ve had to see life in a whole new light. I don’t have my adventure partner with me anymore and I’ve had to rely on the friends and family I’ve cherished over the years. Thank God for them, seriously.
What I’ve realised is that it takes a village to help romantic love bloom. What I’ve realised is that ‘you and me against the world’ is naïve and unrealistic.
I think we forget how spending time apart (not only during working hours) actually benefits our relationships. It gives you something new to talk about, time to miss each other, a support system when times are tough, it cultivates trust, and it promotes a healthy – what’s the opposite of co-dependent – relationship.
I’ve come to realise that even I, someone who takes pride in her independence, can spend more time fostering friendships outside of my relationship with the Fiancé. He’ll always be my number one priority and that’s exactly why spending quality time with genuine friends and family is so essential for us.