Wow, what a loaded topic.
You see, the thing is, in life you’ll probably get less apologies than you deserve and that sucks. People will take advantage and hurt you, sometimes without realising it.
Most of the time everyone is so busy dealing with their own demons that they might not even notice or realise how their actions have hurt you.
Sometimes YOU have to take action and accept the apology that never came. Accept it and let it go. Don’t allow yourself to wallow in bitterness forever. Forgive and let go.
This is probably the most difficult advice I’ve ever given and ever tried to apply to my own life. It’s a process, let me tell you! I’ve gone through my past and picked out a few of the biggest hurts and really focused on letting go.
Anger holds you back
I found that holding onto my anger was holding me back from not only happiness but also pursuing my dreams. It was another obstacle clouding my vision, using my precious energy.
I prayed for a change in my heart and, as a result, I’m on a never-ending journey toward a compassionate and humble way of life.
Day by day, I’ve come to the realisation that anger is a true, raw emotion that must be felt but never held on to. Let it go.
You’re probably asking, “But how, Jen? How do get yourself to forgive, it’s not easy!”. I know it’s not easy and I don’t have the answers. I just know what has helped me along my forgiveness pursuit.
Jen’s Tools for forgiveness:
- A great book that really got me thinking was Joyce Meyer’s The Power of Forgiveness.
- A journal – write letters, thoughts, anything to just get it all out (brace yourself, it’s not going to be pretty).
- Talk – whether you rant to an objective bestie, counsellor or psychologist – it helps to get your thoughts out there and to hear objective advice in return.
- Silence – spend some time with yourself in silence and really listen to what your heart is saying.
- Time – You’ll need more than a day, more than a week, heck you might even think you’ve fully let go of something only to find yourself back at square one a few years down the line. That’s okay, give yourself a break. Just go through the process again. It gets easier.
What are you holding onto in your life that is holding you back? Isn’t it time to accept the apology you never got and let it go?